I mean, who am I to dispense life advice? But, when a person says he’s just being honest, this is a good time to start looking for the exits. Especially a potential romantic partner. People who put great priority on ‘just being honest.’ That means they’re about to harm you. In some very essential way. Not just that they’re gonna screw you over or cheat on you, they’re really gonna find the vulnerable spot and get to it, because it gives them pleasure. That’s how they get their pleasure. And so they say to you; ‘hey i’m just trying to be an honest person.’ Oh, my friends, locate all the places to run in a fire in that kinda situation.
john darnielle on ‘marduk t shirt men’s room incident’ [x] (via carnationsblossom)


"The point of the song is, you know, that we are fairly well damaged by the legacy of the Romantic poets—that we think of love as this, you know, thing that is accompanied by strings and it’s a force for good, and if something bad happens then that’s not love. And the therapeutic tradition that I come from—I used to work in therapy—you know, also says that it’s not love if it feels bad. I don’t know so much about that. I don’t know that the Greeks weren’t right. I think they were—that love can eat a path through everything—that it will destroy a lot of things on the way to its own objective, which is just its expression of itself, you know. I mean, my stepfather loved his family, right? Now he mistreated us terribly quite often, but he loved us. And, you know, well, that to me is something worth commenting on in the hopes of undoing a lot of what I perceive as terrible damage in the way people talk about this—love is this benign, comfortable force. It’s not that. It’s wild, you know?”

-John Darnielle

I keep coming back to this.